Updated: Sep 16, 2020
I know, Rango is a computer-animated Western comedy film, but you have to give it to the "Spirit of the West", these words are profound.
I’m not going to write a review of the movie, I’ll leave it to you to enjoy the pleasure of watching it, if you haven’t yet.
These profound words made me think though.
“What’s your story”, I was asked many a times in my life. Every time I frowned and said “I don’t have a story” – I have many!
Sometimes we think that one big story is the story of our lives. But why we would close ourselves to more stories. Maybe your story hasn’t happened yet; maybe your story is happening as we speak.
So, I think our stories are where we are, right now. Do you like your story right now? Are you content with what is happening in your life? I bet you may want to change a few things, right?
I listened to a video clip from Tony Robbins this morning – his words hit hard when he said:
❞𝗟𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝘀. 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝗱𝗲𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀, 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗮 𝘄𝗮𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗶𝘁 – 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘂𝗻𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲❞. Ouch… urrgg… nah, I don’t know so much. Really….? But then he paused, and said… ❞𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗯𝗲 𝗺𝗮𝗴𝗻𝗶𝗳𝗶𝗰𝗲𝗻𝘁. 𝗜𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗰𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝘀𝘁 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲, 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗵𝗮𝗽𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝘀𝘁 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁❞.
I look back at my stories and I honestly can not say that I loved everything that was.
I felt like walking out of my own story when a very dear friend was killed in an accident and my world crumbled. I felt like walking out of my own story when I wasn’t recognised at work and my integrity was under question by the very people who displayed none. I felt like walking out of my own story when I believed I had nothing to live for. I felt like walking out of my own story when I was a little girl with freckles and red hair walking home, hearing children calling me names and laughing at me because of the colour of my hair. I felt like walking out of my own story when I was told my sister just died. I felt like walking out of my own story when I met the love of my life and started sharing some of my stories.
The list continues… Needless to say, I desperately wanted to walk out of my own stories, many times.
I know you too want to leave our own story at times. Perhaps you are at that point today, maybe you just can’t tolerate being in your own story right now.
But then, those words: ❞𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝘀❞ - whether it’s painful, aggravating, unbearable, frustrating. No matter what your story looks like right now, whether you feel the pain pulling you into the depths of despair, whether you see no way out, whether you feel like you are hanging by a threat, whether you feel you can’t breathe…
Death. Divorce. Murder. Guilt. Betrayal. Are they for real - where’s the grace? How do we learn to “love what is” when things are so terribly broken and all seems lost?
There is grace in this moment, look for it. It probably doesn’t look like you think it would and you may have to dig a little deeper, it’s there. I found it, you can too.
When I look back at my stories now, I feel proud. Proud that I survived them, proud that I was able to learn how to avoid letting these moments define me. Proud that I live without shackles around my heart and soul. 𝗠𝘆 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗺𝗲, 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗱𝗲𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝗺𝗲. I don’t want to walk out of my own story anymore.
We all have different stories, but there isn’t a person in the world who have experienced and survived adversity that will tell you otherwise. They all concur: it is not what happens to us that matters so much as what happens in us.
𝗟𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝘀. 𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻’𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝗹𝗸 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗿𝘆…
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